There are people who live very comfortably, doing everything based on their emotions and easily accepting things that are incomplete. But there are also those who always want everything to be meticulous and perfect, from work and studies to relationships; many even want to impose that meticulousness on those around them. They find it hard to accept sloppiness, do not allow themselves to do things half-heartedly, and always set very high standards for themselves. Such people are often called perfectionists.

Perfectionism is the constant desire for everything to reach the best possible level. They pay attention to every small detail, always wanting the result to be flawless, and often feel dissatisfied with what they have achieved. After completion, they might feel a bit relieved, but somewhere deep down, they still blame themselves for minor errors in the process. This acts like a small thorn quietly pricking their heart, which easily affects their mood, making it seem like they are always in a bad state of mind. For them, if they have started something, they must do it well; if they have tried, they are not allowed to be half-hearted. Because of this mindset, perfectionists are often labeled as "difficult."

Are they difficult, so they become perfectionists, or does perfectionism make them difficult? Perhaps both exist side by side. Because they set such high standards, they gradually become strict with everything around them - or conversely, because they are naturally strict and fastidious, they are seen as having high requirements. They easily notice flaws and feel uncomfortable when things do not go as intended. However, it is worth noting that perfectionists are often much harsher on themselves than they are on others.

To outsiders, they may appear as meticulous, serious, and responsible individuals. But behind that exterior lies a vast amount of invisible pressure. They constantly force themselves to be better every day, always thinking they are still not good enough or perfect enough. Even a tiny mistake can make them dwell for a long time. Often, others see that they have done a great job or are very talented in something, but for them, it is still not satisfying because there is always a lingering feeling of "if only I had done better."

Perfectionists also usually want everything to happen exactly according to the plans they have made and desired. This isn't necessarily because they like controlling others, but because they have spent so much time thinking to find the best way for everything, and deep down, they also want the best for others. Therefore, when things deviate from the plan, they easily become stressed, frustrated, and irritable. A small thing not going their way is enough to ruin their mood for the entire day. They fear the feeling of losing control, fear failure, and fear that all their efforts will become meaningless.

In relationships, perfectionists also carry a lot of expectations. They love seriously and sincerely, always wanting the relationship to be built in a clear and stable way. But because their expectations are so high, they are also easily disappointed. If their partner is a bit indifferent, changes slightly, or fails to meet their desires, they will start overthinking. Sometimes they don't say it out loud but keep all those emotions inside and suffer silently. Many of them are quite straightforward, yet they often use silence to solve problems; this easily makes them more frustrated when their partner doesn't understand their thoughts or know what they did wrong to fix it, which can easily lead the relationship into a dead end.

Actually, perfectionism is not entirely a bad thing. It is perfectionism that helps people live more responsibly, try harder, and be more serious about what they do. Perfectionists are usually hardworking, determined, and always want to improve. But when perfectionism exceeds its limits, it becomes a pressure that makes one exhausted.

The way to overcome perfectionism is not to give up on trying, but to learn how to accept things that are not yet perfect. Not everything in life happens exactly as we want, and no one can be perfect in everything. Sometimes, a few small shortcomings do not diminish the value of a person. Failure does not mean that all efforts were in vain.