Jealousy, in essence, is a feeling of anxiety or insecurity when we fear losing the one we love to someone else. It is a natural human reaction when there is an emotional attachment. Therefore, in love, experiencing a little jealousy is completely normal. A slight touch of jealousy sometimes even makes the partner feel that they are important, that they are cared for and cherished. It is like a kind of spice - if used just enough, it will make the relationship more interesting and tightly bonded.

If a person is not jealous, do they truly love? The answer is not necessarily "no." It is not that those who aren't jealous don't love; rather, they might love in a more mature way - they trust their partner, respect their personal space, and do not let negative emotions dominate them. Love does not necessarily have to be accompanied by jealousy; sometimes, calmness and trust are the true expressions of a profound affection.

Many people believe that the more jealous you are, the deeper your love is. But reality is not quite like that. Excessive jealousy often stems from insecurity, a lack of trust, or the fear of abandonment, rather than pure love. When jealousy becomes extreme, it easily turns into control: checking phones, restricting relationships, having baseless suspicions... At this point, jealousy is no longer a spice but has become a poison, suffocating both parties and gradually eroding their affection.

The crucial difference between jealousy and control lies in the boundary of respect. Jealousy is an emotion, while control is an action. You can feel jealous, but how you express it is what decides everything. If you share your feelings sincerely, know how to listen, and respect your partner, that is healthy jealousy. Conversely, if you impose, suspect, and strip away the other person's freedom, it is no longer love but possession.

So, how should one be appropriately jealous? Perhaps, it is when you know how to stop at "just enough." Enough to care, but not enough to make your partner feel suffocated. Enough to express emotions, but not enough to damage trust. A little jealousy can add color to love, but only when it is accompanied by understanding and respect. When trust is strong enough, jealousy will no longer be an obsession but just a fleeting, very human emotion.

Jealousy can be a spice, but it can also be a poison - it all depends on how people use it. A sustainable love does not lie in how much or how little jealousy there is, but in whether two people have enough trust, respect, and maturity to preserve the relationship together.