We are living in an era where the windows looking out to the world are no longer transparent glass panes, but brightly glowing screens in everyone's hands. There, social media has inadvertently created a massive stage, where the most brilliant footage and the most dazzling achievements of others are continuously screened in their entirety 24 hours a day. This overexposure to information has turned the habit of comparing oneself to those around them, which was just accidental fleeting moments in the past, into a continuous loop, deeply rooted in the minds of modern humans. Every screen swipe is a time we put ourselves on the scale with millions of other individuals, only to sink into a feeling of bewilderment, questioning our own true value and position amidst the vast world.

However, if we take a step back to look from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, comparison is not a modern "disease," but a primal instinct pre-programmed in humanity's genetic code. From the dawn of time, humans survived based on the herd, and continuously observing and evaluating one's social position compared to other individuals was the only way to ensure safety, rights, and the distribution of resources. This instinct is tied to the deep-seated need for self-affirmation: we need a frame of reference from the surrounding environment to position who we are, where our capabilities lie, and whether we are meeting the general expectations of the community. Ever since psychologist Leon Festinger introduced the Social Comparison Theory, science has recognized that reflecting oneself through the lens of others is a natural mechanism for the brain to gather information and adjust behavior.

The nature of comparison is inherently neutral, and can lead to positive or negative consequences depending on the perspective and mindset of each person. On the bright side, upward comparisons with outstanding individuals can act as a lighthouse, inspiring and urging us to step out of our comfort zone to reach new limits. Simultaneously, downward comparisons are sometimes gentle reminders of gratitude, helping us appreciate what we currently possess upon realizing that many people are still struggling with difficulties we have overcome. When controlled by a rational mindset, comparison is like a compass helping us fine-tune our personal development journey.

Yet, the boundary between motivation and destruction is incredibly fragile. Comparison officially turns into poison when it crosses the boundary of reference to become the sole metric for self-worth. At that point, the seeds of envy begin to sprout, eroding inner peace and turning those around us into rivals instead of fellow human beings. More terrifyingly, continuously comparing our own rough, unpolished hidden corners with the edited "brilliant stages" of others will crush self-esteem, pushing people into a swamp of perpetual inferiority. The more absorbed we are in chasing the crowd's definition of success, the easier it is to lose our inner voice, leading to severe disorientation. We exhaust ourselves in a race with no finish line, striving to achieve things that we do not actually desire, just to exchange for nods of recognition from strangers.

To break this toxic loop and regain autonomy, the solution does not lie in completely rejecting the comparison instinct, but in rerouting its direction. The most crucial transformation is establishing an internal personal standard system, replacing the vain metrics of society. When we clearly identify the core values that bring happiness to ourselves, we will learn to only compare our self of today with our self of yesterday. Concurrently, proactively establishing firm boundaries with social media is an essential "detox" measure. By filtering the information we receive, minimizing exposure time to content that triggers inferiority, and clearly recognizing that the virtual world is merely an illusory fragment of reality, we are single-handedly removing invisible pressures.

Each person's life is a unique running track with completely different starting points, hurdles, and finish lines; true peace only comes when we stop looking over at other people's lanes and focus entirely on our own footsteps.